The Steady Heart

💜 Reflections, resources, and real stories for the ones who keep going.

When Illness Becomes Family: A Conversation with Shelly Grimm

Growing up as my mother’s caregiver—when she was among the very first women ever documented with Crohn’s disease—shaped every part of my life: the childhood I missed, the strength I gained, and the advocacy I eventually embraced. On this episode, I share the untold realities of living in the shadow of chronic illness, the loneliness of uncharted diagnosis, and how I turned silent support into purpose. I hope our conversation helps others feel less alone, and encourages both caregivers and those they care for to claim their stories.

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When Parenting Never Really Ends

As the parent of an adult son who is neurodivergent and disabled by it, I felt the truth in this story. The worries, the arguments, the small triumphs — they echo in my own life. Caregiving in adulthood is a landscape few talk about, but stories like this remind us we are not walking it alone.

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The Perpetual Caregiver: A Dream Becoming Reality

The Perpetual Caregiver is no longer just a vision — it’s a living, breathing space for caregivers who deserve to be seen, supported, and celebrated. In this post, I share the launch of the official website, my upcoming book Some Asses Just Need Wiping, and my new speaking work with the Family Love Letter. If you’ve ever been a caregiver — or loved one — this is for you.

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My Mother’s Silent Battle with Crohn’s Disease Starting in 1956

In 1956, my mother became the first woman diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. At the time, What I do remember now is her silent suffering—the way she carried an invisible illness with dignity, even as it slowly consumed her strength.

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The Love That Blossoms Through Caregiving

Caring for a parent or child is a journey filled with a myriad of emotions, from joy and frustration to heartache and deep love. Regardless of whether you support an aging parent or nurture a child, the bond that develops can be transformative.

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